Self-Esteem (Part 2)

In our previous article, we learned what self-esteem is, the importance of healthy self-esteem, and the consequences of low self-esteem. An even more important point is that self-esteem can be raised through psychotherapy and regular practice. Remember, just as a person's self-esteem does not build up in a day, change is not possible in a day either — it requires regular and sufficient effort.

Some common ways to improve your view of yourself:

• Try to think positively: Everyone's life has both positive and negative sides. In this practice, seek out only the positive sides of your life and reflect on them.
• Find your qualities and make a list: Pay attention to your good sides, and list the further qualities you want to build, then start practising.
• Find and correct your mistakes: Everyone may have some behaviours that are not helpful to themselves or others; it is necessary to work on them consciously.
• Know your abilities and limitations: Have a clear idea of what you can and cannot do. The more clearly you know yourself, the stronger your self-belief becomes. Remember that no one can do everything — so do not create unrealistic expectations by comparing yourself with others.
• Set realistic goals: Move forward with steps that are achievable within a set time, according to your situation and ability.
• Take criticism positively: Neither blindly believing criticism nor ignoring it is helpful. Consider whether it is true; if so, correct it, and if not, see it simply as "someone else's opinion."
• Learn to ignore unnecessary remarks about yourself, and refrain from criticising others.
• Examine your beliefs about yourself: Are they really logical, or merely assumptions?
• Ups and downs are part of life: A negative event does not mean life is over — keep this in mind.
• Regular eating, sleep, rest, and exercise: When the body is well, the mind stays well; when the mind is well, the body stays well too.

If we can practise these regularly, we can live healthily with a positive view of ourselves. If needed, you can contact a psychiatrist or psychologist and take psychotherapy. Cognitive behaviour therapy is a research-recognised process that is quite effective in building confidence and self-esteem.